Don’t Get Lost in the Sauce: When God Pulls You Out of Old Patterns

There comes a moment in your life when you get tired. Not just physically tired, but soul tired. Tired of the same cycles. Tired of the same choices. Tired of entertaining the same patterns that once felt comfortable but now feel heavy.

I’m at that point.

Things I used to be attracted to no longer move me. Things I used to tolerate, I can’t even sit with anymore. Conversations I once entertained now feel draining. Environments I once blended into now feel out of place.

And if I’m being honest, it’s been convicting.

Because when you start changing like this, you realize something deeper is happening. This isn’t just growth. This is God working on you. This is refinement. This is pruning.

God has been dealing with me.

Over the past few years, my life has shifted in ways I never expected. Divorce. Breakups. Rebuilding. Figuring out what I want for myself and for my children. Walking away from what I thought my life would look like and stepping into the unknown.

It has felt like a wilderness season.

And if you’ve ever been in a wilderness season, you know it is not comfortable. It stretches you. It exposes you. It forces you to sit with yourself and really see who you are without distractions.

But it also changes you.

It teaches you what you deserve. It teaches you what you will no longer accept. It teaches you how to hear God more clearly when everything else gets quiet.

And that’s where I am now.

I’ve made a decision that I am not going back to anything God has already delivered me from.

Not the mindset. Not the habits. Not the people. Not the version of me that settled, ignored red flags, or pretended not to know better.

Because the truth is, once God opens your eyes, you cannot go back to being blind.

And that’s where the hard part comes in.

Sometimes it is not even about you removing people. Sometimes it is about recognizing that either the people around you have to grow too, or you will outgrow the space entirely. Sometimes it is about changing your own patterns so deeply that what once fit no longer does.

Growth will cost you.

It will cost you comfort. It will cost you familiarity. It will cost you relationships that cannot come with you into the next version of your life.

But I would rather lose anything than lose alignment with God.

Recently, I had to check myself.

I found myself so focused on my books, my goals, my sales, and everything I am trying to build that I went five days without reading my Word.

Five days.

Now to some people, that might not seem like much. But for me, that is a lot. I am someone who leans on the Word, who studies it, who tries to apply it daily. So when I realized that, it hit me hard.

Not because it made me a bad person, but because it showed me how easy it is to get distracted.

Even by things that feel like purpose.

That was the wake-up call.

Because anything that pulls me away from God, even if it looks productive, even if it looks successful, even if it feels important, is still a distraction if it replaces Him.

And what I was reminded of is this:

Everything that feels right is not always right.
Everything that looks good is not always good.
Everyone around you is not always meant for you.

Discernment is everything.

In my book, I have a chapter called “When I Called Sin by Its Name.” And in that chapter, I talk about how important it is to stop pretending we do not know when we are moving wrong. To stop acting oblivious. To stop blaming everything and everyone else without taking accountability.

Because sometimes we are not just in the problem… we are contributing to it.

And growth requires honesty.

You have to be real with yourself. You have to acknowledge where you are falling short. You have to recognize when you are allowing distractions, when you are entertaining things you should have already outgrown, and when you are slowly drifting away from what keeps you grounded.

God already has a plan for your life.

But you have to stay close enough to Him to hear the directions.

You cannot expect clarity while living in confusion. You cannot expect guidance while constantly choosing distraction. And you cannot expect transformation while holding onto the very things God is trying to remove.

So for me, this is a reset.

This is me pulling my energy back.

Back from people.
Back from unnecessary conversations.
Back from anything that drains me or disconnects me from God.

And here is what I have learned: the people who truly love you will understand.

They will not take your distance personally. They will not guilt you for choosing yourself. They will not question your need to recharge and reconnect.

Because real love respects your growth.

Everyone else will reveal themselves.

This season is about getting focused again.

Getting back in my Word.
Getting back to journaling.
Getting back to sitting with myself in stillness instead of constantly being pulled in different directions.

There is something powerful about writing your thoughts down. About being honest on paper. About processing your emotions instead of suppressing them.

There is something healing about stillness.

About mindfulness.
About checking in with yourself.
About making sure you are not so busy living that you forget why you are living in the first place.

Because distractions are dangerous.

Not because they always look bad, but because they often look good.

They look like opportunities.
They look like connections.
They look like progress.

But if you are not careful, they can slowly pull you away from your purpose.

And I refuse to let that happen.

So this is your reminder, just like it was mine:

Do not get lost in everything happening around you.
Do not forget who you are.
Do not forget who God called you to be.
Do not let temporary distractions cost you your long-term purpose.

Stay focused.
Stay grounded.
Stay connected to God.

Because everything else can wait… but your alignment cannot.